Don't you just hate it when you see a movie that gets you thinking about things you have done in the past. I do. Because I always come back to the exact same thing. The crazy crush I had on one of the best guy friends I have ever had and I had to ruin the damn friendship by trying to stretch it into a fucking relationship. I swear I could just kick myself in the ass every time I think about it. I recently saw "He's just not that into you" Great movie. And Greg Behrendt (the guy who wrote the book) is a fucking genius! The movie, is about a group of women, the obsessive lonely single girl, the girl that has been with the guy for some odd number of years and he won't pop the question, the "happily" married girl.... her husband's mistress and her best friend. I think these categories pretty much cover most women. Obsessive daters, the constant bridesmaid, the crazy wife with the hot hubby, the girl that thinks she is sexy but really isn't (ScarJo) and finally the girl with the awesomely funny personality that can't seem to meet a decent guy (wow... sounds like someone I know...). This movie/book, makes us aware of ALL the mistakes that we, as women make when dating/marrying/stalking/cyber-stalking a guy. And everything that is said and done totally makes sense if you REALLY think about it. Greg/ Alex..... you will meet him in the movie....... are the guy friend that EVERY girl should have. A brutally honest, yet awesomely funny guy friend. Cause the fact of the matter is that as women, we are not going to tell our girlfriend who is one the brink of tears after a date didn't call, "Honey, he obviously does not like you" Who actually wants to hear that from their girlfriend who is supposed to be supportive and compassionate. So we often resort to telling little white lies to make us feel better like, "Maybe he is scared" or "Maybe he is waiting for YOU to call him" or "Maybe he got his by a cab and is unable to call". I know I say things like that all the time. But does it REALLY make us feel better? Or is it just a temporary fix if you will for the pain that is sure to follow? I'll go with the second choice. What if your girlfriend finds out that he actually was NOT hit by a cab but is not calling be he genuinely does not give a shit? What happens then? I'll tell you what happens. All Hell breaks loose and then next thing ya know you got a huge ass cat fight on your hands. Not cool. I think from now on, I will just be honest... but nice. "I don't know if he is that interested..." and then there is my favorite follow up line, "If he can see what an awesome girl you are then that is HIS loss. You deserve better." Totally true. Honesty is the best policy... and I know what you are thinking, "What kind of girlfriend would I be if I told her the truth and it kills her confidence?" Well, that is why you are a GIRLFRIEND! We all are blessed with the ability to pick ourselves and eachother up and dust off and move on.... with the help of chocolate and a mani/pedi of course.
Always,
K
Aww, so cute! I'm glad to have a friend like you!!!
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